A few blogs back I mentioned that some of my black friends had told me they've detected an increase in antiblack racism because of president Obama.
This led a friend of mine to ask me about my black friends.
I couldn't remember who told me. The problem is that I have absolutely no way to sort in my mind which friends have high melanin. My brain simply will not sort on skin color. It never has, even when I was manager of a black church and had dozens of close friends who were black.
That is not my only friendship failing. I cannot tell you how many of my friends are young. To me there is a wide range of friends who are between 20 and 60 and I rarely think of them by age.
My worst failing is an inability to detect good looks among my women friends. I consider most of my women friends to be attractive. They are wonderful friends. I have looked at pictures of them on occasion and commented to myself that some are not very attractive. It just doesn't play a role in my perception of them.
I assume that my failure is highly personal. I look for many other qualities in people than melanin, age or female beauty. Surprisingly, I do notice which of my male friends are handsome... most are.